Do you always stick to the same type when it comes to dating? Has dating this way nearly always turned sour? Would you ever consider branching out and dating someone outside your type? This article discusses the ways we type-cast people and the benefits that can be gained from broadening your horizons when it comes to dating.
But by broadening your horizons could you be more likely to find the perfect date?
Most people have a specific type. This could be down to physical attributes – you may prefer the tall, dark, handsome type or the sweet blonde hair, blue eyes look.
You may only date people of a certain ethnicity, or you may restrict your dates to those who share your religious beliefs. You may rule out anyone who isn’t in a certain age bracket and you may be adamantly against dating a single parent.
Have you found that sticking to your to type has led to a string of unsuccessful relationships? Many people who stick to a very narrow ‘dating-attribute’ checklist find that they are unlucky in love.
Someone may tick all the boxes physically, but have nothing in common with you on a deeper level. The most important part of person for longevity in a relationship is their personality.
If you do not share the same sense of humour, interests in certain subjects and life values then you are unlikely to connect on a level that goes beyond the surface of physical attraction.
If you are finding that sticking to your type is getting you nowhere then it might be time to think about trying someone new. By being less particular about what you are looking for you will open yourself up to meeting a whole load of people who you would previously have dismissed straight away.
Compatibility is not just a physical thing. Keep an open mind and get to know someone before you rule them out. You may find a genuine connection in the most surprising of places! Some of the best relationships occur when people go for someone outside of their physical typecasting.
If the personality, laughter and chemistry is there then who cares if that person is not your perfect ideal, or does not tick all the boxes on your list. Give it a go and see what happens!
One easy way to broaden your horizons is to try an online dating site such as eHarmony.co.uk. You can browse the profiles of people of all different ages, races, religions and beliefs.
Whether you are looking for someone slightly older, someone who shares your religious beliefs or people who are interested in Japanese dating, online sites attract people with a wide array of interests.
Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone and broaden your horizons when it comes to dating. You could be overlooking your perfect match because of shallow, superficial reasons. Give people a chance and see if love can blossom!
BBC
The BBC’s relationship page has articles on intimacy, love, body image and coping with conflict.
The Guardian
The Guardian has a section dedicated to relationship tips and advice.
The Gloss
The Gloss has an article discussing the pit falls of dating a specific type.